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Do you ever feel overwhelmed by those not-good-enough feelings? Those pesky, annoying feelings that creep up when you least expect it, that little voice telling you that you’re not doing a good enough job? I feel like those little voices have been roaring in my head lately, and I’ve found myself having a harder time than in the past embracing having grace, rather than striving for perfection.

Lately, there have been a lot of things I’ve been mulling over in the not-good-enough department of my life. With spring allergies, my skin decided to turn on me as it does most years and cover my face with little bumps that just won’t quit – so now, my skin isn’t good enough. I’ve been trying to be a good friend as much as I can, but of course with the craziness of the summer, suddenly I feel like I’m not a good enough friend. I’ve been looking at my blog with new scrutiny, feeling like I’m behind or not doing a good enough job to consider myself “legit” compared to the other bloggers and sites I adore. It all starts to build up, from one little “I’m not good enough” to a sea of voices yelling at you throughout the day, letting you know that you could do better.

Take this little post for example, I probably spend a few days weighing the pros and cons of publishing it. I didn’t think it was a “good enough” outfit post, and that even though I’d put on makeup, brushed my hair, got dressed and took the photos, it just wasn’t “good enough” for what I was going for. I don’t exactly know what IS good enough because it’s this vague standard I’ve created for myself that I would never be able to pinpoint if someone actually asked me to describe it. But instead of just going for it and posting away, I spent so much of my time agonizing over it, wondering if people wouldn’t thank it was good enough too. I think, “Do I look pretty enough, or do I look as tired as I feel in these photos? Will people think the tree is too green in the background? Should I have ironed my coat like a good blogger would have done”…the list goes on and on.  And then the more that I think about it, the more I feel like I have to laugh at myself, because I’m being completely and utterly ridiculous. It’s easy to be hard on yourself, but it’s much harder to give yourself grace, and reassure yourself that at the end of the day, if you’re trying you’re best that that’s all that matters. I remind myself of the phrase, “Better done than perfect”, and instead of obsessing over those thoughts of not being good enough, I have to give myself a high-five and celebrate with a glass of wine for getting things done.

The fact that I wrote 4 blog posts this week, started a new job, managed to have a social life and kept my apartment clean?! Oh hi, Maya – you’re killing the game. Sure some photos were a little too “green” for your liking {you crazy person, you}, but you’re doing a good job just getting shit done. And for the most part, you’re doing a pretty good job too – so let’s not be too hard on yourself, okay?! Now go drink a glass of wine and chill the F out, you crazy, lovely, super crazy person.So the moral of this mini-diatribe is that it’s always important to give yourself a little grace, and celebrate the accomplishments vs. beating yourself up for not being perfect all the time. And don’t worry, all those other people who you think have such perfect lives are wishing they were doing it better too. “Good enough” is relative, so just celebrate the little victories often and well. xx